Graduating from high school brings many changes: maybe you’re about to embark on your studies, look for an apprenticeship, or take a gap year.
In this new phase of your life, you will probably want to leave your family home, stand on your own two feet, and make your own decisions. Perhaps you’re unsure about how to gently prepare your parents for your planned move. Here are a few tips to help you.
Introduce your plans step by step
You shouldn’t necessarily drop a bombshell and tell your parents out of the blue that you’re packing your bags and looking for your own place.
If you have older siblings who have already left home, then your parents will be familiar with the situation and will realize it is only a matter of time before you decide to move out too. For an only child, the situation may be a little trickier.
Introduce your plans step by step. Give small hints that will help your parents understand over time that you are planning a big step. Talk to them about your friends who are moving away home or how practical it would be for you to live closer to your university.
It is not unusual to move to another city to do an apprenticeship or to study. For some parents, this idea will make their hairs stand on end, so try to show them that you want to follow your dreams and go out into the big wide world.
Involving your parents
You are probably already excited and eager to find suitable accommodation. Your parents are likely to be as curious as you are but they will also be nervous about what the future holds.
Let them assist you with apartment-hunting and involve them in your plans. You may find that their experiences of looking for a place to live can be very helpful.
If you are due to view an apartment or room in a student dormitory, get your parents to come along with you.
They certainly won’t want you to move to a dangerous area or live in substandard accommodation. Letting them be involved will help to reassure them. They will also be very interested in where you are going to live.
At the same time, it will make it easier for them to let go when they see that you’ve found a decent place to live.
Your high school graduation is approaching: how to prepare your parents for your plans to leave home – Part 2
In our next article, which will be published on Friday, February 8, 2019, you will find more tips on how to convince your parents that leaving home is the right choice for you, as well as advice on how best to prepare them for your next big step.
If you are still looking for a place of your own, we can help. In our article ‘How I want to live—something of my own’, you’ll find advice about living in your own apartment.